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A Tribute To 911

Monday, October 11th, 2010
I met Sharon when she read an article about the book my husband and I wrote. She wrote me an email and eventually we talked by phone. After our first conversation, I remember turning the phone off on that warm August 2009 day, sitting under my favorite tree in the yard and weeping. The story she told ripped me to my very core and will never be sewn shut. Sharon was on the 80th floor in one of the twin towers and while I will not go into details, her horrific journey to survival thaRead More....

What Am I So Afraid Of?

Monday, October 11th, 2010
I want to dissolve the fear in my life. I want to live from a place of trust and openness, and not let insecurity get in my way. I’ve decided that in order to do that I need to acknowledge my fears and then wish them goodbye, not let them have power over me. Most of my fears stem from my past. Growing up in a wealthy community, but not coming from a wealthy family, I looked around me and constantly made comparisons and judgments about myself. I figured out what I needed to do, wear and say Read More....

Memorial Day Tribute

Monday, October 11th, 2010
John Husband, Chairman of the Managing Committee of Holland and Hart (the law firm Art works for), wrote the following letter to all the lawyers and staff in the firm, which is the largest law firm in the West. I appreciated what he said so much, I asked if I could share it and he agreed. I hope you all will enjoy his words as well and take them to heart on this special weekend:   Memorial Day will always have a special place in my heart.  The holiday was originally meant to be a timRead More....

Important Word From Paul Harvey

Monday, October 11th, 2010
I love Paul Harvey and I love these words he says..... Paul Harvey Writes: We tried so hard to make things better for our kids that we made them worse. For my grandchildren, I'd like better. I'd really like for them to know about hand me down clothes and homemade ice cream and leftover meat loaf sandwiches. I really would. I hope you learn humility by being humiliated, and that you learn honesty by being cheated. I hope you learn to make your own bed and mow the lawn and wash the Read More....

Listening With Your Heart

Wednesday, September 1st, 2010
I think an essential part of the grieving process is what I've heard called "liminal space," or a time between things. If you've had significant loss in your life, you know that there is a time period when you are beyond the intense period of crying but you still feel the pit in your stomach, and the missing still aches inside you. It's as if your head says to your body, "Okay, this person is gone. He/she is not coming back. You have honored them, grieved for them, allowed them the freedom to 'gRead More....

Graduation Speeches for AHS Class of 2010

Wednesday, June 2nd, 2010
Allison's Speech: Welcome everyone, but above all, the graduating class of 2010. Art and I are honored to be speaking to you today. Thank you.   Before Art comes on, I want to talk to you about something that has made a difference in my own life. Let me preface this by telling you that when I was your age I didn’t understand these things. I wish I had.   My hope for all of you as you enter college or wherever your life is taking you, is that you learn to listen toRead More....

Sharing our Pain

Wednesday, June 2nd, 2010
Loss is so horrible. It hurts in ways none of us can put words to perfectly. In fact, I think the devastation and other massive emotions we encounter make us go to lonely places we aren't sure we can recover from. When my brother committed suicide, for so long I wondered if the ache in my chest would ever leave? Other days I begged the ache never to leave because it was my connection to Rod. The emotions were my link to his memory. One of the most important things I think you can do when you Read More....

The Five to One Ratio

Wednesday, February 3rd, 2010
I heard something great today, something I needed to hear. In order for a marriage to be successful, there must be a ratio of five positive comments to every one negative one. I may have heard that theory before but today when John Tesh talked about it on his radio show it hit me like a lightbulb: I need to stay conscious to the feedback I give to Art throughout a day. For that matter, I need to use the ratio with my children as well! It's so easy when life gets stressful, or I'm PMS-ing, or Read More....

Grief and Joy

Friday, January 29th, 2010
When I think of grieving, I think of pain and sadness. I think of my stomach in knots, tears flowing uncontrollably and a broken heart. Joy has no place in grief at first glance. To me, grief is like a precious vase or plate that shatters into pieces. You look at all of your feelings and pieces of love and wonder how you can ever repair it—it feels destroyed. Life isn’t perfect and we will all experience loss and grief. It is something we all will share at some time or another. For somRead More....

Balancing Your Holidays!

Wednesday, December 16th, 2009
There have been years when I have been so overwhelmed with holiday parties, buying the right gifts, making all of the food and making it perfectly, that I forgot the meaning of this time of year. Depending upon your faith, this time of year can have different meanings, but for all of us, it is a time of remembering, thankfulness, joy and celebration. Gifts and food are a part of it but they aren’t the most important part. Here’s what I’m focusing on this year to help me stay balanced: Read More....